So something that has sprung into my awareness a lot since I have lived in Bali, is the amount of men and women that have chosen the route of non-committed relationships, ditching monogamy in favor for polyamory or short term encounters and flings. On the surface this is a decision that is etched in freedom, love for everyone and non-conforming to tradition. But underneath the surface, dishing out non commitment with an almost grass is greener, ego gratification, always seeking more attitude– surpassing contentment, and potentially even sacrificing family life.
‘ I don’t want to commit incase I miss out on a connection with someone else’ ‘just going with the flow’
‘ Monogamy isn’t natural’ are common things you may hear …..
Don’t get me wrong this isn’t just in Bali, the same thing is happening back in the UK too and no doubt in new age ‘conscious’ communities throughout the world.
This spurred me to look at the bigger picture and begin asking some questions…. Why do I doubt the present day off trails from the 1960’s free love movement, surely the capacity to love more people isn’t a bad thing? Or are we self serving to the pinnacle of individualism when we forfeit family life for a life of, lets face it, indulgent back to back sexual encounters or long term uncommitted sexual relations masked with a ‘uber spiritual’ ‘conscious’ veil of justification.
Why have one when you can have more… surely more is better right? So our modern day globalist, capitalist, lucifarian indoctrinated society would have you believe….. Personally I am open minded on the matter, but have seen such a pattern recently that I feel all this non committal stuff is worth exploring.
Firstly lets look at what commitment actually is….
A Serious Commitment is a…
1. Solemn Promise
Instead of just being hollow words said casually in passing, a Serious Commitment is a solemn pledge you make and keep with yourself and others. You must understand the complete consequences of your commitment and fully mean it when you say it. When you make a commitment, others will take you seriously and rely on you to be true to your word.
2. Full Investment
A Serious Commitment means you fully invest yourself in the cause – physically, mentally, and emotionally. You connect completely with your cause and passionately pursue it by putting your whole heart, mind, and soul into it. You don’t hold back but go “all in”, putting in your full attention, energy, and effort to accomplish your goal.
“Put your heart, mind, and soul into even your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.” Swami Sivananda
3. Willingness to Sacrifice
When you make a Serious Commitment to someone or something, it also means you willingly and selflessly make individual sacrifices for it. It is a key priority for you and something you willingly work the rest of your life around, even if it causes some personal hardship to you. Commitment means you knowingly and willingly give up things you might want in the short-term to potentially gain something of greater value in the long-term.
4. Long-term Obligation
A Serious Commitment is a long-term obligation you must continually work toward and ideally see through to completion. It isn’t something you try out and then easily abandon. It is something you establish, embody, and embrace for the long haul.
5. Pact to Persevere
A Serious Commitment means sticking with something even when, and especially when, times are tough. Just like the traditional marriage vows of “for richer or poorer, in sickness and health,” true commitment is unwavering regardless of the circumstances. When you make a commitment to someone or something, you make a pact to persevere through the tough times together. It won’t be easy, but it is almost always worth it.
6. Agreement to Act
Finally, a Serious Commitment is way more than words. It is best demonstrated and proven by your actions on a regular basis. People will initially listen to your words but will ultimately measure your commitment and your character by your deeds.
“Commitment is an act, not a word.” Jean-Paul Sartre, Philosopher
And lets for a minute remember the 7 virtues and sins –
Basic stuff but you can clearly see which ones are forced and conditioned upon us in society in one way or another….
In life we commit to things that are important to us….
Our learning, our careers, our personal development We commit to our spiritual development
We commit to eating healthy
We commit to our friends
So why can we not commit to a lover? Someone whom we feel a deep intimate bond with……Have our intimate connections become less sincere throughout time now we live in a highly sexualized world (lust)? Are we programmed to constantly seek more (gluttony and greed)? Are we just playing to our egos by having multiple partners (pride) …On a deeper level are we subconsciously playing into an agenda to break down family values? (Hello New World Order – we all know people will depend on the system more if they are not in families.)
My question is what have you ever gained in life by not committing to some thing ? And what makes relationships any different…..?
In life our relationship with our self first and foremost mirror the other aspects of our lives, especially with our relationships with other people…we know this. So what really is going on when we are not committing.
These questions lead me down a long and winding rabbit hole and opened up so many other topics to me. Firstly I always remember reading a brilliant article on sexuality… I previously had an ex who was going down the route of thinking that sex was in some way shameful so I was looking into the beliefs on the planet about sex. On doing that I found a great article about how sex (when practiced properly within love) offers us the beautiful gift of spiritual evolution and development and ultimately enlightenment. When our cords intertwine – the divine union of male and female energy we can reach great heights….
An extract from TheSoulMatrix.com
“When the library of yourselves was torn from the shelves and scattered, and the DNA was split so that there were only two strands left with very little data and very little memory, sexuality was left intact in the physical body. It was left as a form of reproduction, of course- as a form for the species to stay in touch with its own essence and bring itself into life.
Very deep inside the mechanism of sexuality is a frequency that can be attained that has been sought after and misunderstood by many people. It is called orgasm.
The orgasm has been distorted from its original purpose. Your body has forgotten the cosmic orgasm of which it is capable because society has taught you for thousands and thousands of years that sexuality is bad.
The sexual parts of the body are avenues to pleasure that create frequencies that heal and stimulate the body and potentially lead it to its higher spiritual self. Sexuality is so misunderstood on this planet that, when it is exchanged between two persons, very seldom is there an intent to connect spirituality with it. We have spoken with a number of individuals who have been utilizing light. Since finding the proper partner in a monogamous situation, they have been able to achieve very high states of being. Monogamy tends to work for most of you very well because of where you are vibrationally.
When you have many partners, you tend to be less than honest and to hide who you are: you share a little here, there, and everywhere in scattering your seed. It is best to be with one person, but this does not mean the same person forever. Be loyal, be open, and be sharing with the person you are working with, and go as far as you can with them. If it happens to be your whole life, wonderful.
If it doesn’t, then when you come to a place where you are no longer communicating and serving one another, and you feel the relationship is not going to be able to make a leap, terminate the relationship and find another person who works with your vibration.” http://thesoulmatrix.com/spirituality/sacred-sexuality-a-pleiadian-perspective/
So who on the planet would not want the population to reach the heights that can be reached through sex?
Monogamy is mainly practiced within the population who are still conditioned within society – and would be unaware of the benefits you can achieve from it, and often still have a layer of guilt around their ideals of sex enforced by the churches over generations and generations.
Monogamy is on its way out of fashion in the younger generations who have grown up with controlled media and music…. So for people to even get to the amazing part of spiritual activation through sex, first they have to get past the guilt and over sexualized ideas, then we would have to get to the pure connection in committed love… A lot of people in more liberated movements such as the
new age movement have managed to get past the guilt – In the new age movement many practice polyamory and open relationships, so is this movement as liberating as we come to believe? I feel that the new age movement has been very heavily infiltrated, as with many other groups in society.
Snapshots from modern day oversexed music /media industry
I remember a conversation I had once with a Hare Krishna devotee at their temple in Dublin. He turned around to a friend and I and said we shouldn’t waste our time with ‘these hippy types’ because they will never be responsible and truly committed. We were quite perplexed, but then he went on to say how family life and commitment is actually one of the toughest spiritual lessons in life and one of the most rewarding. This got me thinking about the depths of human relationships that are committed and have trust. How vulnerable you make yourself to be seen, COMPLETELY seen on all levels by one other human being. So many lessons that you can unlock and learn from each other.
Skipping between partners and going one relationship to the next, giving up as soon as something tests us is almost like the escapism we crave with drugs and alcohol, shortcutting any real work to get to instant states of hedonism and sensual gratification … a committed relationship to me, is like enduring the meditation and devoted practices to get to the ultimate state, instead of shortcutting or faking it.
Travelling through all layers, the depth and trust and honesty that must be there to build something authentically with one person offers so much more in terms of delving into ourselves on a deeper level, truly dissolving the ego, and offers intense inner work. Ultimately we mirror all our relationships in life, with the relationship we have with ourself.
As above so below.
An extract from Miracles Home website:
“The ego uses relationships for gratification and the ego, being impulsive and unstable, has no conception of commitment. Commitment to a monogamous interpersonal relationship is a step that the Holy Spirit can use (as with any commitment or discipline) to open the mind to the sole or ultimate commitment that one can make: accepting the Atonement or Awakening to God’s Love.
I have referred to the ego’s purpose for relationships as “dixie cup relationships.” The ego seems to throw its relationships away once it seems to get what it thinks it wants and moves on to the next relationship for another drink. Simultaneous sexual relationships or “open” relationships as they have been called simply appear to add to the complexity. A monogamous interpersonal relationship can offer a full plate of opportunities to expose and forgive the ego, and the undoing of the ego (forgiveness) is the only Purpose for all relationships.
The fear of attachment is really a fear of Intimacy. This fear is not about sexual intimacy, but it is the fear of revealing the Innermost Self, believing that rejection or attachment may result. Love and affection are held back because of the belief in expectations attached to them. Love must be freely given to be Love, and it is the same with affection.” https://miracleshome.org/supplements/sexspirituality_1210.htm
By having multiple partners at once, or only letting someone in on the surface, playing the non- committal field, you get to choose what you wish to show to that other person, never fully being vulnerable and seen completely. Can you not see the opportunity that is available to TRULY get to meet yourself through a deep connection with another person. Yes we can get to know ourselves in many other ways and in all our relationships in life. But what is on offer when you commit to something and delve below the surface in a connection that has trust, loyalty, respect, and commitment and ultimately LOVE is completely different.
As soon as something goes a bit deeper and gets that little uncomfortable, in this day an age we chuck the towel in and move on to another. Thus missing out on potentially an amazing lesson and opportunity to develop and evolve within a sacred union. How will you ever know how deep you can go if you never give yourself the chance? And how will we ever experience that deepness if we just stay at one level, let someone in so far, then trade for a new one, rarely ever penetrating deeper than the vaginal hole of the next person and next person.
On a societal level it is like that of the throwaway generation, something is broke, just chuck it away, and just buy a new one plenty more fish in the sea. However we are not disposable!Who really is happy at this time on the planet – the majority of us are all disconnected, addicted in one way or the other to something, serving the self, and ultimately playing completely into the hands of our oppressors who have made it very clear they intend to break down the family values on this planet. Which is evident all around us right now.
Let’s look for a minute – who has the most power, whether we like it or not, currently on this planet. We have the illuminati bloodline families of bankers, and Babylonian royal bloodline families. What do they all have in common? They are FAMILIES. Yes families ARE powerful… hence why they are trying to destroy family values, especially in conscious community, as we really could have the power to change things. Whether or not these families that are in power get up to stuff behind closed doors we probably don’t want to imagine, they are all strong families!
One of the many videos and avenues I researched on this and opened my mind – check out this interview about how the new age movement was infiltrated with LSD, whilst we are not on the subject of drugs right now – this does show how far the manipulation goes! So just watch with an openmind!
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We have been programmed a long time – in the west we engage with sexual partners very young, so we loose the sacred value of sex and we just see it as ‘normal’ to go out and mate with lots of partners young. I mean I did, and I am still healing the emotional and spiritual wounds from this. This then causes the feeling of never being content.
The manipulation even goes as far as people thinking sex is conscious when ‘practiced’ outside of love! It is the love vibration that is the missing ingredient in this, sure some of you will say ‘ I love everyone I have sex with’ or ‘I have advanced so much within my sexual practice’ … really that is just sex from the ego, and if anything strengthening the ego …and lets not mistake intimacy for love, love has many more ingredients to make it completely pure and dare I say it
committal is one of them…. it is crucial to remember we can be duped in terms of our evolution – nothing is always as it seems… you can reach certain heights but only the heights they want you too as an illusion and not actually being in your full sovereignty. The manipulation on this planet goes far beyond what you can comprehend.
To clarify I am not against experimenting – I even like to learn and hear about tantric experiences, but I yearn to practice them within a beautiful sacred, safe union.
Click to view – This view on the western world is certainly eye opening
One of the main and most scary realizations for me is how this new age non committed ideal that is currently happening all over the world, is clearly playing into the hands of the bigger agenda on this planet, which is to break down family values for a number of reasons,
These reasons I believe to be;
- More people will rely on a system when they are not in families
- Imprinting individualism to break down communities
- To feed the lucifarian agenda, enforcing the 7 sins
- To create a state of un-contentment, always wanting more within the society to keep you as a consumer debt slave and completely self serving
- To make people not be able to access higher dimensions and spiritual activations through sacred monogamous sex with one partner
- Keeping conscious families from creating beautiful conscious children bought up in a strong family environment (without split parent trauma) that will then go on to create change
The children are the future on this planet, so of course the preferred pockets of society that will be encouraged to mate and create families are the ‘asleep’ people whose children then willingly go into the forced education systems and carry on the family lineage of subservient left brain conditioned debt slave taxpayers.
The new agers do exhibit some great traits that can assist the world, al be it the teachings new agers follow are slightly mislead and confused, alot of it is new age babble! The bottom line is the things new agers do babble on about DO lead to us being more awake and having a more fulfilling life, eating healthier (non gmo and dna altering foods), and above all questioning everything!!!!! APART from the fact many people are not committing to ANYTHING apart from their ‘spiritual development’, let alone a relationship and creating strong families that live outside the system, and even better start creating new systems. We need a generation of questioning; healthy non-programmed children with great, strong family structures, so please people do not be duped.
To start creating more positive change on the planet we need more strong families and conscious, unconditioned children. Creating our own sovereign families. Out of all the people on the planet – who do you think should be the ones having children and creating beautiful families together? And who do you think predicted this and infiltrated it to ensure that the majority never commit! Or even in the event of having a child, the parents do not sacrifice or stay together to provide the safe environment, leading the child to have to spend a majority of their adolescent and young adult life unraveling and healing the spilt family traumas. Often leading to addictions, anxieties, aggressions, depressions, all mind-sets that get in the way of our inherently natural abilities to create a better world.
I don’t like to give the elite more power than they are worth, however if there was an award for global domination and manipulation, or if I was looking for a group of people who have done it well I would probably say ‘ oh yep in terms of global domination those elite down on earth did a pretty good job. However their domination has gone on too long and the first step is becoming aware and taking back the power…. Seeing through the bullshit and manipulation in all levels…. And for me I feel in my heart that what I feel here resonates so much. It is up to you what you wish to accept – and there is nothing wrong in indulging in the ‘new age’ ideals and communities but just don’t take all of it onboard and still have vigilance.
Whilst I am not pro one partner all your life, I am pro one partner at a time, and I am pro strong families without break up trauma to create strong humans who can go on to make great impacts
from the safety and security provided by a strong family. Hence in recognition of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs in society…safety is the underlying base need…. and I feel these are being tactfully attacked through methods of subversion and polarizing (making us believe the complete opposites of truth).
It is time to turn the tables back over once again and return to our truth – but blimey there are a lot of layers to pull back. I am optimistic though and I shall carry on my views even if it does ruffle some feathers, after all that is what I am here to do,
Amen, Namaste, fuck YEAH!
https://miracleshome.org/supplements/sexspirituality_1210.htm http://thesoulmatrix.com/spirituality/sacred-sexuality-a-pleiadian-perspective/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WczbflV40Fg http://belsebuub.com/articles/enlightenment-is-hidden-in-sex http://consciouslifenews.com/new-world-order-infiltrated-new-age-movement-other-spiritual- paradigms/1168126/ http://www.janssensportsleadership.com/resources/janssen-blog/the-6-key-components-of-making-a- serious- commitment/ Love this explanation of commitment http://www.twoofus.org/educational-content/articles/why-commitment-matters/index.aspx https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9mV6H5Z04o0